…when she is in the game of Baseball.
Like each of us, Jessica has many moments of joy in her life but being in the game seems like no other.
Maybe, as we continue working towards complete access to the game, it is the satisfaction that opportunity, now, continuing to play in the game she loves, seals the deal.
But, sharing her feelings, thoughts, goals, vision for herself in the game, while the door is open, seems to be the fundamental truth in changing the atmosphere around the only girl playing baseball on a high school Varsity team in her “town”.
I was most impressed with the attitude, the equal treatment she received from her teammates – it was tangible – sublime, even.
While she was truly joyous and excited during each moment she was in uniform, on the field, wanting to turn to each boy and say something to acknowledge her satisfaction;
– including after pitching, three batters up and down, two struck out – one looking; the other swinging – on the 3 count, with a wicked change-up; running the outline of the field, at the command of her coach, when she came off the mound, rounded the fences, and returned to the backstop: nothing; not a peep, from anyone (this is the last game before cuts happen, for some, two days later…)
But, that is OK: she was being treated as an equal member of the team, with the accepted etiquette, not showing any hubris, which might offend the opponent.
There were other very unique things about the game (I will go into details, later,) but, I wanted to share, for now the incredible satisfaction, the affirmation that:
IT IS ALL WORTH EVERY MOMENT – EACH HIGH AND LOW – AS WE STRUGGLE AND NEGOTIATE BUT, IN THE END:
ALLOW OUR CHILDREN TO STAND UP FOR THEIR OWN OPPORTUNITY – THEIR OWN RIGHT – SUPPORTING THEM EACH STEP OF THE WAY:
AS THEY DEFINE THEIR OWN REALITY, in this case:
girls who prefer baseball as the activity chosen by themselves.
[Note: when I wrote this, I could not have had any notion she would have been cut – not by her coach, but by her athletic director – from her team two days later…: the only girl in San Francisco, California, USA, at the time, playing High School Varsity Baseball.]